20 Dialogues in 20 Days

PROGRESS REPORT

Here is a suggested outline to use, (partially or fully,) to help you post to the 20 Dialogues Group at Yahoo. One way would be to copy the questions below, fill in whatever answers you wish, and either . . .

Email them

OR . . . Post online at: 20 Dialogues Group (#61).

See a sample Progress Report completed by a wife from a prior workshop.

1. Have you begun the 20 Dialogues?

2. About how many have you done?

3. Are you doing one a day or skipping some days? Are you doing more than one on some days to catch up?

3. Are you using the Dialogue as you go through them?

4. When do you tend to do your dialogues? Do you ever do them on the phone? Via Email? IMing?

5. In general, how long are you spending?

6. Are there any questions so far that you have particularly liked?

7. Any that you have found boring or disliked?

8. When you get off the path, i.e., stop Dialoguing, have you been successful getting back on track? If so, how have you done that?

9. Have any of your dialogues led to deeper discussions about your relationship or yourselves as individuals?

10. What effect do you think your participation is having on your relationship?

11. How is it effecting how you feel toward your partner?

12. Have you had any particular problems with the Dialogue?

13. Can you share a Dialogue experience you've had so far?

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SAMPLE PROGRESS REPORT:

Here is a sample Progress Report, filled out by a woman from a prior workshop:

1. Have you begun the 20 Dialogues? Yes

2. About how many have you done? We have dialogued daily and seem to be doing quite well with the mirroring

3. Are you doing one a day or skipping some days? Are you doing more than one on some days to catch up? We are doing at least one a day but sometimes more.

3. Are you using the Dialogue as you go through them? Yes but I think we still need to work. I am reflecting back on my workbook for guidance.

4. When do you tend to do your dialogues? Do you ever do them on the phone? Via Email? IMing? We dialogue in the evening when we are face to face as well as during the day on the telephone.

5. In general, how long are you spending? Around 30 min.

6. Are there any questions so far that you have particularly liked?

7. Any that you have found boring or disliked?

8. When you get off the path, i.e., stop Dialoguing, have you been successful getting back on track? If so, how have you done that? We get off path easily but usually (my husband) reigns it back in.

9. Have any of your dialogues led to deeper discussions about your relationship or yourselves as individuals? not yet. We are too distracted with getting ready for my upcoming trip.

10. What effect do you think your participation is having on your relationship? There is definitely a positive effect. I see that each of us have a deeper commitment and a true caring for one another.

11. How is it effecting how you feel toward your partner? I feel more understanding. I don’t judge as quickly.

12. Have you had any particular problems with the Dialogue? No. The dialogue seems to keep us calmer and more willing to let the other speak and be heard.

13. Can you share a Dialogue experience you've had so far? Not yet. I just wanted to get something out to you to let you know that we are doing ok.